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Self Care Specialist

Welcome! I am so glad you're here. I invite you to take a leisurely scroll through my halls. I have crafted this website to feel more like an experience than a chore. It is my hope you enjoy perusing it as much as I enjoyed making it for you. And remember...when you get to the end, it's really just the beginning of something amazing.

You're here because you crave a new adventure with someone who can set aside the weapons of mass distraction and make you their sole focus.

You’re drawn to someone whose mind can dance with yours, someone who can keep pace in both thought and conversation. You long for a companion whose warmth and vivacity brighten every moment you spend together.

Very rarely do we take a moment to breathe, let alone plan an indulgence. Even less often do we treat ourselves to the things we enjoy, crave, and want most. We only get one life to enjoy as much as we can, so it is time to stop wanting and time to start having.

Whet Your Appetite

Indulgence Awaits

Mel from behind in a ruched green dress This is about creating the kind of moments where the world falls away, one where connection feels effortless and genuine. Time will melt as we indulge in the luxury of being fully present with each other. It’s not just about what we do, but how we do it: intentionally, authentically, and with purpose. Together, we’ll craft something uniquely ours. Something that brings lightness, joy, and a sense of escape from the never-ending demands of reality. Whenever we get together, the world slows down, and the noise fades. All that remains is the connection we share, and the adventure we are about to have.

Mel wearing a floral lace bra and panty set standing in a marble white bathroom You are a deep, passionate, and intense person in need of an escape from your daily life. You seek a companion who will engage the senses, ignite your mind, and stoke your fire. You understand that true stimulation begins with the brain and slowly envelops every other part of you as time unfolds. You have a great sense of humour, love laughter, and cherish the good times. You find intelligent conversation to be the best precursor to a memorable evening. You're smart with your money, preferring to plan and partake in experiences of enduring value. You know what’s real is always worth it, and that anticipation is its own form of indulgence.

Mel wearing a skirt covered in Javascript You value interesting people and consider yourself a connoisseur of good company. You already know that what I want most is just to make you happy. Whether it’s sharing dinner and drinks, a quiet night in, or a grand adventure, you realise that it’s thewhoas much as thewhatthat makes the experience. You seek someone nice to look at, down to earth, and attentive to your needs. You are looking for someone who composes themselves with decorum and prefers to avoid drama, strife, and negativity. You understand that life is best enjoyed like lingering over a great meal, and that certain moments are meant to be paused on and indulged in.

A close up of Mel from behind wearing an ornate Art Deco lingerie set You desire privacy and discretion, enjoying being the centre of attention in private while blending in seamlessly in public. You value a companion on the same page. You are generous and warm-hearted. The kind of person who puts others first, does what you can to make them happy, and helps those with less when the opportunity arises. You love making the people around you smile and doing what you can for them, but you also know you can’t pour from an empty cup. This is where I come in, offering the respite and indulgence we both know you deserve.

A shot of Mel in profile wearing an ornate Art Deco lingerie set Me*lis”san, a feminine name:dim.Mel; Sweet; Outgoing; Honest; Sarcastic; Girl next door with an enigmatic twist; Acronym: MELISSA: My Entire Life Is Spent Striving Ahead.

I am a specialist in the real. Born on the tail end of things being built to last I have sculpted myself into an adaptive, resilient person ready for whatever life has up its sleeve. I grew up on the back of a motorcycle and have spent my years on the road ever since — cultivating my skills, absorbing experiences, and becoming a facilitator of grand adventures. Now, I’m here to help you begin yours. I look forward to lingering over fine conversation as your hands discover the stories written in my skin, every freckle a star in a galaxy only you can navigate.

A shot of Mel in profile wearing a sheer and black floral lace bra and panty set I am genuinely interested in what makes you you. I love figuring out what makes you both tick and explode, continually surprising and pleasing you in all the best ways. I believe deeper connections deepen pleasure, and I will take your satisfaction to new peaks each time we meet. Like the finest wine, our visits only get better with time. I am but soft clay waiting for your warm, firm hands to knead my impossibly soft skin. Together, we’ll breathe in moments where time stands still. The art of luxury isn’t about expensive brands, showing off, and other people noticing you. It’s about intention, attentiveness, and the moments that make you feel pampered and cherished. A bed with fresh sheets, a plush robe after a warm shower, a secret smile at the right moment — all subtle reminders that true luxury isn’t about a price tag, and proof that the simplest pleasures are often the most profound. Luxury is about quality. If you're here for someone who cares what colour the bottom of their shoes are, you are in the wrong place.

A shot of Mel in profile wearing a sheer and black floral lace bra and panty set I am a simple person who lives a simple life on my own terms. I love soft skin, soft music, and soft touch. I live by the adage I never wish to be the company that misery loves. Your right to swing your fist ends an inch from my face, and I deeply believe in the adage “live and let live” as well as “life is too short for hate”. The world is complicated enough, and I see no reason to add to that. I am into all things 'retro', I'm a three pedal driving enthusiast, and spend most of my free time indulging in one of my many hobbies — hiking, painting, sculpture, gardening, photography, playing on my arcade machine, gaming with friends, music production, digital art, and reading...just to name a few. Believe me, there are many more. You get one shot at this life, and I want to try as many interesting sounding things as I can. I have a small army of pets (dogs and cats) flanking me at all times when I am at home. I value the right to privacy, so I choose not to carry a smartphone. I conduct all communication through encrypted email or self-destructing encrypted messages on Signal. That said, it is my preference that the vast majority of our interaction not be screen based — but rather cheek to cheek, body to body, hand to hand. A space where the internet doesn't bleed into reality. As time dissolves in a room with no clock, we will lazily become intoxicated by each other and lose ourselves completely.

Our story has yet to be written, but this is where it begins.
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Vital Statistics

Altitude5'5''

Mass125lbs

EpochMid 30s

Launch DateJune 20th

Proportions32GG-25-35

ViewsLive and let live + don't be an asshole.

Indulge

Decorum

Every game has rules, and this one is no different. Before you indulge, you must first give them a glance. This is something of a "Terms and Conditions" page, except I actually expect you to read these (there might be a pop quiz). Luckily, my rules mostly boil down to “Don't be an asshole" which is pretty simple as long as you aren't an asshole.

Adhering to proper decorum is one of the most important things when it comes to meeting new people, full stop. Most people assume that etiquette is a ‘given’ for the ladies and only needs to be laid out for gentlemen. I disagree. I think that in life there are no ‘givens’ for anyone.

To prevent any potential for disappointment on your part and to ensure we’re on the same page, I’m happy to outline what you can expect from me — and what I’ll expect from you — when you arrive. I also encourage you to read my Code of Ethics if you haven't.

You truly will meet the woman in the photos, the woman from the words, and the woman who wrote this website. I'll be freshly showered and faintly floral, wearing light makeup, and nails neatly done. Hair may be curly or straight based on weather, activity, preference, and package. What you see here is really what you get — I've always felt lying on your website is pointless because it's exposed the second someone meets you and realises none of it is real. And then what? Well, I never wanted to find out.

You can expect me to be clean, polite, dressed appropriately for whatever situation we are in. I am infinitely adaptable and can blend in wherever you’d like whether it’s a cosy coffeehouse, a night at the symphony, or a day on the river. With a background in fine art & technology and a life growing up on the back of a motorcycle in leather and jeans, I can move through a number of spaces with ease. When I say 'infinitely adaptable', it’s not lip service or MaRkEtInG. Like I said, WYSIWYG.

Privately, I am vivacious (sometimes bordering on rambling)but feel free to stop me at any time and take our visit in a new direction. I only care to talk if you want to hear what I have to say. What I really want is to go with your flow. Never feel bad about interjecting and having your turn (or as I said, steering our visit in an entirely different direction). I also love to listen. I am told I have a vibrant smile, and my laughter is like bells. Life is about being happy, and I am a happy person. You’ll probably make me laugh quite a bit, as I am quite easy to please. I will only drink if you're drinking, and I am well aware of my limitations.

I expect you to be polite in all correspondence, well groomed, and please wash your ass. Arrive on time or inform me promptly of any lateness. It is my expectation that you’ve read this website and will not bring your altruistic contribution in a plain white envelope. A card, book, tin, or a leather envelope are a few suggestions, but feel free to get creative and show your personality — or just use an ATM envelope in a pinch. Just not a plain white envelope. Please give me the contribution immediately upon your arrival. Gifts/tips are never expected but always appreciated. Gifts are genuinely treasured and will be implemented into my life for years to come. Please see my Philanthropy section if you want to make my heart sing.

I believe in treating others the way I wish to be treated and respect that both your time and money are valuable. I expect reciprocity in that. If you need to alter or cancel our plans, please let me know as soon as possible. Many of the arrangements I make — such as pet sitting and travel — are non-refundable and require advance notice to adjust. I truly appreciate your understanding and consideration in this matter.

On our visit, I expect you to be clean and well mannered. You are always welcome to take a shower if you feel you need one. I have a solo shower and toiletries available for your use, and I do not deduct a reasonable shower from our time. Please use common sense and your best judgement on what a "reasonable shower" is. I request that you wash your hands upon arrival, even if you do not wish to shower. If you don’t, I will know you did not read this. Yeah, remember that pop quiz I mentioned earlier? Here it is. That's called 'truth in advertising' eh? While I have mints to freshen your breath and an assortment of wet wipes I think if you feel you need those things, it’s probably best to take a shower and use mouthwash. It’s no fun to spend time with someone who isn’t as fresh as I am.

If you smoke, I require that you shower when you arrive (or before I arrive), brush your teeth, and use mouthwash. Smoking around me is not permitted. I'm asthmatic, we're not doing it. Vaping, e-cigarette, and penjamin use are fine during our encounter as long as it’s not excessive.

I expect you to conduct yourself in a polite, respectful manner at all times. I have a live-and-let-live philosophy, so my space is a judgement free zone. If it doesn’t hurt us, it’s not our business — full stop. Being judgemental and supporting divisionism aren’t my deal at all. We’re all human beings just trying to get through life and have the nicest human experience we can. We have more in common than what separates us. This is not to say any topic is off limits for you to talk or vent about. We can talk about whatever you want, but TV news buzzwords and over-the-top vitriol for groups of people you don't like? Well, if that's your thing I think you'd be happier with one of those girls with American flags in her bio, that changes her name every six months.

A small good faith deposit is requested of new patrons. I have a multitude of discreet and 'paperless' methods to make your deposit, and I give you a % range so you can select an amount that makes you comfortable. I want both of us to go into our meeting feeling safe and secure.

If I cancel of my own volition through no fault of yours, I refund the deposit. In the event of weather, we will find a date to reschedule to. If you wish to cancel over weather versus reschedule for a later date, the deposit is forfeit and depending on how far out we are, the cancellation fee may be owed. I recommend having 'rain dates' in mind whenever possible. These situations are handled on a case by case basis.

If you are worried I will steal your deposit, I don't want to spend time with you so just close the tab now. Then ask yourself why would I want to share my space and self with someone who thinks so little of me? If I can trust you with my life, you can trust me with a token amount of money.

Life happens, and I appreciate that you respect my time enough to ensure I am not out of pocket if you should need to cancel.

Rescheduling

Visits may be rescheduled instead of cancelled forNO FEE. If you need to cancel and reschedule your visit, your deposit can be applied to a future visit as follows:

More than 7 days in advance:The full deposit can be applied to reschedule.
7 days or less in advance:½ of the deposit can be applied to reschedule.
Less than 5 days in advance:The deposit is forfeit.

Rescheduling Less Than 72 Hours Before the Visit:

If you reschedule less than 72 hours before the visit, I kindly ask that you cover any costs I incur (e.g., hotel/flight cancellations) beyond the deposit, if applicable, so I am not out of pocket. Please note there is no additional cancellation fee in this scenario.

Cancellation Fees (IfNOTRescheduling)

If you cancel within 5 days of our visit:

73 hours–5 days before: Your deposit is retained. No additional fee.
48–72 hours before: Your deposit is retained + 50% of the scheduled time fee.
Less than 48 hours before: Your deposit is retained + 100% of the scheduled time fee.

The total amount due includes your deposit plus any applicable percentage of the scheduled time fee. If the deposit already covers the full amount, no further payment is needed.

Exceptions for Emergencies and Inclement Weather:

Exceptions to this policy can be made for legitimate emergencies, illness, inclement weather, or other force majeure events with proof of the event in question. I am not a monster. In these cases, please contact me as early as possible so we can work it out fairly for both parties. Once you’re feeling better or the situation is resolved, we can discuss what happens next. The goal isn’t to screw you figuratively here — it’s to make sure everything plays out fairly for everyone in the worst case scenario.

You must confirm our visit 24 hours in advance for local visits or 3 days in advance for travel based visits, or it will be considered a cancellation.

By contacting me via this page using either the contact form or the listed email address, you are acknowledging that you both read and agree to the above policies as laid out.

This isn't about what you're vaccinated for, or even about C19. I don’t want RSV, any flu strain, Norovirus, strep throat, or even a cold. That's downtime I don't want or need. If you feel even slightly off, please reschedule. Don’t tell me it’s “just allergies” or a scratchy throat. I will send you away and keep the money. I've used well fitted N95s during flu season since 2017, and full time indoors since 2020 for a reason.

Please take a C19 rapid test just before coming to see me. If you can get the ones that test for multiple illnesses, even better. If any test is positive, we can reschedule. The only thing I want either of us to spread is joy. IF YOU TEST POSITIVE FOR ANYTHING CONTAGIOUS WITHIN A WEEK OF SEEING ME, PLEASE LET ME KNOW! There’s no stigma, no judgement, and I expect nothing else from you. Life happens. But I need to know so I can test, treat, and avoid spreading it to anyone else.

As far as what my personal mitigation strategy is: I keep a close eye on the PMC as well as multiple wastewater reportsfor other illnesses,wear a well fitted N95 indoors, plan trips and visits when it seems to make the most sense, and take time off when it doesn't. I ensure a bare minimum of 72 hours between meeting friends and take a test before I see anyone. Post-viral syndromes are very real, and I’m doing everything I can to avoid unnecessary wear and tear on my body for the longevity of my career and life.

Make no mistake, I'm not scared of anything. This is about futurity. "Health is wealth" isn't just a saying for me. There is no PTO here, only what I save up for times I get sick. These are simply what I consider practical decisions for my financial future and have paid off well so far (knock on wood). I also have always seen it as my responsibility not to spread social diseases of any kind. It's not very discreet to send you home sick either, now is it?

Formalities

I never discuss romance and finance in the same conversation. There is no alphabet soup at this restaurant, so don’t bother asking. The only letter that matters here is R. When it comes to the ultimate escape you just need to find the R that best suits your needs. I do offer shorter visits in certain locations. Please see the FAQ for details on all visits under four hours.

Relax

4 hours

Let’s savour each other’s fine company first and end with a delicious meal. Who wants to feel weighed down all night? We’ll break the ice over drinks of your choosing and soft music.

2500

Refresh

6 hours

For those times when a few hours just aren't enough. However you want to spend it, we'll make it count. Afterward, you'll feel completely refreshed and ready to take on the world.

3000

Recharge

8 hours

A leisurely interlude of indulgent bliss. Let's recharge your batteries and get you ready for whatever lies ahead. We'll make every moment unforgettable.

4000

Revive

Overnight

The World's Best Slumber Party (patent pending). How do you feel about brunch and a siesta? I can’t imagine a better way to start the day!

4500

Rejuvenate

Full Day

Let's take the time you deserve. Start the morning with brunch, wrap up the evening with dinner and a second dessert, or claim the whole day for yourself off the grid with no interruptions. However you choose to spend it, we’ll make every moment worth it.

6000

Release

Weekend

You’ve carved out some quality time, and I’m thrilled you’ve chosen to spend it with me. We'll have the ultimate escape doing whatever strikes your fancy.

10000

A Curation of Distinction

I love and cherish gifts. They make me feel genuinely appreciated, and treasured. But please remember they are always optional, and the real treasure is the pleasure of your company on repeat visits as we become better friends. But if you did want to decorate me, feel free to swipe through this curation of brands I enjoy. Gifts from TheRealReal are happily accepted.

If you prefer more specific direction:

Throne: must haves and cash gifts
Marigold: Luxe gifts
Spoil my animals|Spoil me|Photography

I also collect leather envelopes, dossiers, and portfolios. If all else fails, cash is king.

Questions

What are your home bases & visit minimums?

NC and CO. It's roughly a 65/35 split currently, not including my frequent and random travel to other locations on demand.

NC: Raleigh, Greensboro, Charlotte, Asheville.
CO: The Denver Metro, Boulder, and the Springs.

While I greatly prefer and suggest the four hour minimum I hold for nationwide visits, if you happen to catch me in Denver, or Boulder,my minimum is 2 hours @ 1.5k.
For Charlotte, Raleigh, Greensboro, Asheville, or CO Springs it's3 hours for 2k.

Let's call this a reward for reading between the lines, shall we?

I also offer pre-payment packages as well as other custom arrangements. These are excellent for those who want to indulge in regular visits or those who have a 'yearly Mel budget'. If that's you, reach out.

What is your schedule?

Incredibly flexible since everything is On Demand. I do not publicly publish dates or locations I am/will be in, as that's the polar opposite of discreet. Specific schedules can be discussed one on one. Just reach outand say, "Hey! I'm in X CITY, do you have any plans to be in X CITY". You are NEVER a bother and I ENCOURAGE you to reach out. Simply put: Ask not, get not. If we don't connect because you think I won't go somewhere, that's entirely on you. I go a LOT of places...but only when invited. Gotta use your words.

On this page I do tell you what coast I am on, and you can use my location tool below to see what bringing me to you entails. You can also reach out and ask the next time I plan to be in your city. Given that I drive 50-100k miles per year, I'd say it's probably sooner than you'd think.

While I prefer planning as far in advance as we can whenever possible, I am absolutely open to (and able to accommodate) SOME last minute getaways and liaisons. The only way to know is to ask me. I take visits up to 11 months in advance with a deposit.

How do I see you?

Send me an emailwith a date, time, how long you want to see me, and where.

Do you see...

human beings of all shapes, sizes, races, abilities, creeds, colours, and walks of life? Absolutely. Variety is the spice of life and enjoying a variety of people has only enhanced my human experience.

Do you go...

anywhere with interstate or US Route access? You bet. I actually go anywhere there are paved roads. Don't worry that I won't come see you because you live in a place I've never heard of. If you live somewhere ridiculous, extra compensation may be involved...but it would only be proportionate to the difficulty in getting to you. This is the perfect solution when you live in the type of place no one would ever dream of touring.

Do you offer content?

Exclusively throughMintStars. MintStars actually has a lot more going for it than just content, and I really encourage you to check it out. MintPay is a great tool, as one easy example. They also gave uspartial ownershipin the company, which is both amazing and unheard of.

Can we text?

Yes, through Signal. I love keeping in touch between in person visits with my long distance offeringsor if we are in a monthly arrangement.

Do you provide references?

Happily! Few things though:

They must be within six months of our most recent visit.
You MUST reach out to me first so I know it's coming. I don't give random strangers your personal information as a rule.
Have a good time! Like I said before, variety is the spice of life. Don't ever feel weird about asking me for a reference. This whole thing is about YOU having fun, and if my reference can facilitate that I am more than happy to offer it.
I do not accept references as part of my screening.

Philanthropy

Giving Back

My true passion is community outreach. I don’t want “X cents on the dollar” to help people, I want to help people. Our lives are but a speck of dust in the grand scheme of this existence, and I've always felt our entire purpose on this earth is to make it better for the next group of people that come along. We live in the age of arrogance and the era of entitlement. We can only move out of that by recognising it and doing more for others. The only way I see to do that is by improving the lives of people who are alive today and need help so that they can build better futures to pass on. You can talk to me directly to find out what hands on projects I've got going, or here are some organisations near and dear to my heart.

You may be asking yourself WHY at this point. Why? The real question is why not? There is no such thing as a “lost cause” when you are referring to a human being. I have always felt like this industry has put me in such a position of privilege to help those in need. It also serves as a way to make a positive impact using an industry most see as a blight on society. It's always fun to defy stereotypes and prove people wrong.

I can't give you a tax break, but I can credit up to $250 of your donation to any of these charities (or if yousponsor a websitefor a provider in need) toward your total.

Charities

Feed My Starving Children

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By contacting me via this page using either the contact form or the listed email address, you are acknowledging that you both read and agree to the deposit & cancellation policies as written above.

MEL

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